Do you ever feel like everyone needs your attention at the same time? The kids want you to play. Your spouse wants to connect after a long day. Your employer needs you to finish a project. Your friend needs your counsel. The PTO wants you to run the fundraiser. The church wants you to lead a service team. It is time to make supper. The house is a wreck and needs cleaning. This is just a typical Tuesday. Right? I guess our dreams and passions are the sacrifice we make.
What if it doesn’t have to be like this?
[tweetthis]God created us for so much more than to be slaves to our to-do lists.[/tweetthis]God created us for so much more than to be slaves to our to-do lists. There is more to life than tyranny of the urgent. So how do keep from exhausting ourselves by working on stuff that matters less?
I have a lot of hats. Some are for my favorite sports teams. Many are from places we’ve gone on vacation over the years. Some are everyday hats. Others are more functional, like the one with big fluffy earmuffs attached. I wear that one when I’m out in the cold. I have a lot of hats, but there are only a few I wear often. I should even get rid of some of them. Some of them I need to keep, but I don’t wear them much. When I have a choice, there are 2 or 3 I go to every time. The rest I just wear when I want or need to.
I’m learning life works best when I stop trying to be everything to everyone all at once. I’ve identified my, “primary hats.” These are the roles I play in life in which I want to exert my best effort and energy. The primary hats I wear (in priority order) are:
I wear a lot of other hats too. But I’m learning to prioritize what I do by what kind of hat it is. My primary hats most often get my best energy. I work on them the most. I put on the other functional and secondary hats sometimes too. Like anyone else, there are things I just have to do. There are also things I like to do when I can, but not at the expense of what I’ve made my priority.
Here’s the challenge:
Make a list of all the hats you wear:
- Circle the ones most important to you. Are they the same as those in which you currently invest the most time and energy?
- Identity the hats that are just functional — you wear them when you have to.
- Identify the hats that are secondary — you can wear them when sometimes, when time allows or you need a change of pace.
Identify some ambitions for each of your primary hats.
- What is an actionable project I can work on to help move forward in my ambition?
Once you’ve identified these things, make a plan and start working on it. You don’t have to figure it out overnight. Just identify one step at a time and take it. Take a few minutes and share your hats and/or your plans below. We’d love to encourage you